Family Reflections
|
Hi Friends! This week, I found myself reflecting on the importance of family. Growing up in a large family, (three younger siblings and countless cousins who felt like siblings) life was always filled with energy and excitement. Holidays were always a big deal, gatherings were frequent, and my folks never missed an opportunity for an impromptu cookout. But I'm by no means in denial about how I sometimes take for granted the time I've been blessed to spend with my family. The Evolution of Family Bonds Now that I'm older and settled into my introverted ways, my holidays look quite different. It's usually quiet celebrations with just me and my son. Looking back, I laugh at how I used to just breathe a heavy sigh of exhaustion about yet another family event. I recall referring to my siblings as “birth control” because very little about my time spent "watching" them inspired me to be a parent. The funny thing though, is that despite craving my quiet space, I am giddy every time I reconnect with family. Just a few nights ago, I talked to my younger cousin for over two hours. I was on cloud nine the rest of the night. And it's pretty much that way every time I talk to a family member, but ESPECIALLY my siblings and cousins. I am and always will be their biggest cheerleader and number one fan! Sometimes, they tell me similar. Just this week, my sister told me she considers herself my biggest fan. I almost cried a thug tear y'all. Later that night, I heard my sister's words again. While listening to the audiobook for Viola Davis' Finding Me: A Memoir, I was struck by how deeply she admires her big sister, Diane. Is that how my sister sees me? What an honor! I don’t have a big sister myself, but as the second oldest grandchild on both sides, I’ve always played that role. And yet, my “babies” (my younger siblings and cousins) inspire me. Watching them grow, build their own families, and create their own paths fills me with awe! And though I treasure my solitude, there’s something undeniably energizing about family time. Their presence fuels me, reminding me to keep pushing forward in life. This motivation is not just to set an example for them, but to become the best version of myself for us. Family isn’t always about DNA or shared last names. However you define it, I hope it’s filled with love, cherished memories, and meaningful connections. Because sometimes, the very things that once exhausted us become the moments we treasure most. 💝 Ingrid |